By Mohau Khupa
Gents, you have probably dated these women or at least not yet. Ladies, you are probably one of these kinds. It is a fact women are as diverse as they come hence they all come in different packages – it’s no secret. I will therefore delve into three different types of women that we have in the mating game and how they are and/or behave in relationships or how they are in life generally. I may not tackle all of them but these are the most common ones.
Entitled Queens
These kind of women have been told all their lives that they’re beautiful, smart and entitled to all the best life has to offer. While it’s all good for their confidence, that sort of mentality often leads them into thinking that they are entitled to anything they want – they can have it their way all the time, because they are beautiful. This mentality has turned into a misconception that they never have to work for anything in their life – they are entitled to it all, right?
The Entitled Queens are the extreme narcissists. In a romantic relationship, she will not make any effort to develop her partner or the relationship anyhow. She will not recommend a good book to her partner or even buy her partner something nice. Now, her partner’s first instinct will be to up his game. He will probably give her lots of love therefore. But then to her, more love to her means she is entitled to more.
It is such a pity that she will never be grateful for having such an amazing partner who gives her that much love. As far as she knows, she deserves all that. Well maybe she does, but her idea of entitlement blocks her from really recognising that she has it good, maybe even better than ever. The Entitled Queen will not appreciate anything that she gets from her partner which she feels it is less than what she is entitled to.
The Hurt and Submissive
They have been hurt a lot. The hurt and submissive woman has settled for average men. The odds are she has been abused both physically and emotionally. She still believes in love though. However, her idea of love is as unrealistic as her idea of pain – absolutely permanent. Her confidence can be really high if her partner brings her best yet out. She needs it like a queen needs her crown back. The hurt and submissive woman can open up a lot like a flower. Do not promise her a world that you cannot give her, nor promise to be part of her reality when you know in your heart that you won’t.
Gentlemen, please love them, if you can love her like the queen she is, brother, please do. Not only will she benefit from the love but everyone else around her will. Genuinely loved and appreciated, she will walk around like a goddess, infecting everybody else with the love she is getting from you. That’s right – love is contagious too. So, recommend some good music to her, send her some really cool sounds to get her through her days, wine and dine her and make out too. While you are growing yourself, because there is often a lot you can learn from her if you are paying attention, help her grow as well. While it’s still an option to stick with her, if you decide to leave her, please, gentlemen, leave her way better than you found her.
Gamers
The gamer has dated almost all kinds of men. She is probably not surprised anymore by men, or at least she thinks so. She has explored so much in the game to know that the roles of the game are not only interchangeable, but they are not gender-confined too. When you have invited her over for a bottle of wine, she will take the liberty to get you guys food, because she can. You probably won’t get very far with manipulation therefore because she has most likely been manipulated before. She will know when she is being manipulated and she won’t like you for that. That’s not what you want, is it?
So, gentlemen, the trick is, be straight. You may not say it but be straight that it’s all for fun so much that it shows, from the start. Above all, be creative in your courtship, because she has probably been wined and dined many times over a plethora of dates. Do not be one of those men she has dated, man, be the man. For you gentlemen who think it is a challenge courting her in the most creative ways, maybe you are right. So, are you going to accept the challenge and be better or not? For you gentlemen who think it’s easy, are you going to test that hypothesis or not?
